Relax to Heal: What Your Body Needs Most
If there’s one truth I’ve come to know deeply, it’s this: you have to relax to heal.
That phrase might sound overly simple — even frustrating — when you’re in pain or feeling stuck. But the more I’ve unraveled my own healing journey, the more I see this as the foundation of transformation. It’s not a suggestion. It’s a requirement.
Why Tension Blocks You From Healing
Imagine a rubber band stretched to the edge of snapping. That was me. Maybe that’s you right now. When we’re consumed by worry — why we’re not healing, what our bodies are doing, how much longer we can handle it — we’re in a state of constant contraction.
That tension doesn’t just stay in the mind. It’s in your cells. Your breath. Your immune system.
You can’t think your way into softness. You have to create space for it.
So when we talk about relax to heal, what we’re really saying is this: Can you soften enough to let your body trust you again?
Letting Go Isn’t Giving Up — It’s Leveling Up
It might feel counterintuitive. You think that if you just try harder — be more spiritual, more disciplined, more trusting — then healing will come. But true transformation doesn’t happen through force. It happens through surrender.
Your body needs signals of safety. Not effort.
So instead of pushing, start loosening. Loosen your grip on expectations. Loosen your narrative of urgency. Loosen your timeline. And notice how, when you relax to heal, your entire energy field begins to shift.
What You See is the Past
Here’s something that changed my life:
What you see in your body today is the result of past thoughts and feelings.
Healing isn’t always instant. You might not think a new thought and see the results by bedtime. But the moment you start to consistently relax to heal — by changing your internal dialogue and tending to your nervous system — the future you’re creating does begin to form.
Your job is to hold the vision. The rest is physics.
Genes Aren’t Your Destiny – Relax & Heal
Let’s talk DNA. I used to believe that because I had the gene for eczema and allergies, I was doomed to live that way forever. But that’s old science. We now know that genes are not fixed. They are signals waiting for instructions.
You can turn them on. You can turn them off.
When I was living in fear — told that I’d be sick forever, taught to avoid foods, animals, and life — my genes expressed illness. My body reacted accordingly. But the moment I chose to believe something else, to feel something new, and to live from that belief, things changed.
Little by little, symptoms disappeared. Not because I fixed or focused on them — but because I turned off the switch that kept them alive.
The Lightbulb Moment
Sometimes I think about symptoms as lightbulbs. At one point in my life, every painful issue had a glowing spotlight on it. But as I kept doing the work, kept meditating, kept choosing peace over panic — those bulbs began to turn off.
One by one.
And when the light is off, the symptom no longer defines you.
Relax to heal isn’t just a concept. It’s a practice. And the more you embrace it, the more you shift the biology of your body.
You’re Not Doing It Wrong
If it feels hard, that’s not a sign you’re failing. It’s a sign you’re tense.
Relaxing isn’t always easy. Especially if you’ve lived in fight-or-flight for decades. But every time you pause, breathe, and remind your system that it’s safe — you rewrite your biology.
Every single cell in your body is listening to your thoughts.
So what if you softened right now? What if you breathed through the discomfort instead of resisting it? What if you allowed it to be, just for a moment, without trying to fix it?
This is The Work
To relax to heal means showing up every day to rewire your reality. It means:
- Meditating even when it’s hard.
- Choosing a new belief, even when the old one screams louder.
- Softening into the unknown, because you trust that your body knows the way.
The deeper you relax, the more fully you’ll heal.
And when in doubt? Take a breath, and say to yourself:
I am safe. I am whole. I am already healing.
