If you’ve been wondering how to meditate and haven’t yet found a method that really works for you, you’re not alone. So many of us have sat cross-legged on the floor, eyes shut, thoughts racing, wondering if we’re doing it wrong. In this blog, I’ll share my personal journey with meditation, how it became one of my healing tools, and how you can use it too – without needing to be perfect or ‘getting it right’.
To be clear: you’re doing it right as long as you’re meditating. Okay?!
How It All Began: Full-Blown PANIC
I was in a dark place when I learned how to meditate. It was 2019. I was physically and mentally ill. Desperate for change, I stumbled upon Dr. Joe Dispenza on YouTube. I bought some of his meditations started practicing the same night with using a YouTube video.
I had meditated before, inconsistently, and never with any lasting impact. But something about Dr. Joe’s structure and the immersive music in his guided meditations drew me in and helped me get into it.
His teachings were also incredibly valuable for me and made me feel hopeful.
Why Earlier Attempts Failed
Before discovering what worked, I had tried everything: apps with 10-minute sessions, Deepak and Oprah Winfrey’s 21-day challenges, even a 10-day Vipassana retreat.
None of it stuck.
I was trying to meditate the “right” way: cross-legged, on the floor, in pain, focusing more on the setting than on the actual practice. And that was the problem.
Learning how to meditate has nothing to do with how you sit or what app you use.
It’s about one thing: awareness and showing up. Meditation is the practice of becoming aware of your mind and what it’s doing.
The Turning Point: Meditating with Dr. Joe Dispenza
I began to feel hopeful using Dr. Joe’s meditations. At first, it took everything I had just to sit still. I was struggling with a scratching addiction and struggled to keep my hands still.
But I persisted.
Day after day, I showed up.
For two years, I didn’t miss a day and I still haven’t (6+ years into it.)
And slowly, things started to change.
My mind became quieter.
My body started healing.
I knew the meditations by heart.
I could anticipate every word.
And I was changing from within.
That’s when my needs started to change.
Evolving the Practice: From Guidance to Silence
By late 2022, I no longer wanted guided meditations.
I craved silence.
My mind was becoming more peaceful – not chaotic.
I stopped listening to music and podcasts.
I walked in silence.
I let my thoughts come and go without judgment.
This shift is crucial.
One of the most powerful lessons in how to meditate today is allowing the practice to evolve. What works at the beginning won’t be what you need forever. That’s okay. Give yourself permission to change.
Meditation Isn’t Just About Sitting Still
I often tell my clients: meditation is not the problem. Many people meditate every day and still feel stuck, sick, or unhappy. Why? Because real transformation happens outside of meditation.
It’s ALL about mind training. Done with your eyes open.
You have about 15 active hours a day. That’s where the real work begins. Learning how to meditate helped me also learn how to live mindfully. How you respond to stress, how you treat yourself, how you think: these matter far more than whether you sat for 20 or 60 minutes in the dark.
The Key to Healing: Turning Inward, Not Outward
Meditation taught me to look within. For years, I had looked everywhere else: new diets, miracle cures, fads etc. Meditation finally gave me the space to tune into my own guidance. It was the first thing that helped me stop seeking and start being.
So if you’re wondering how to meditate and find peace, start by asking:
Can I sit in silence without any music?
Can I just observe my thoughts instead of reacting?
Can I accept that it’s okay not to feel great all the time?
How to Meditate: My Daily Routine
Today, I still meditate every morning. I use an app that plays brown noise so I can block out sound, but my favorite mornings are the ones where I wake up before anyone else in my building (around 6.30AM) and sit in complete silence.
I listen to my breath.
I wait for the mind to settle.
Eventually, I fall into stillness – and in love.
THIS HAS TAKEN YEARS OF PRACTICE.
Do NOT beat yourself up if you can’t feel anything.
That’s literally what I teach through mind training.
If you’re just beginning and need structure, guided meditations like Dr. Joe’s are fantastic.
But if you’re further along, trust your instincts.
Let your practice shift.
Listen to what your mind and body need.
You Are Doing It Right
Let me repeat this: if you are meditating, you are doing it right. You don’t need to suffer through it. You’re not supposed to feel miserable. You’re allowed to feel good. In fact, that’s the point.
Most people are so trained to struggle that they bring that struggle into their spiritual practice. Meditation should be the opposite. It should be a return to ease, not a new battlefield.
Final Thoughts: You Already Have Everything You Need
Learning how to meditate has taught me that I already have what I need inside me.
My mind is powerful. When trained, it becomes my greatest ally.
As a mind training coach, my mission is to help people reach the point where they don’t need me. You don’t need to look outside yourself for answers. They’re already within you.
Meditation helps to clear your mind.
Mind training is path that leads you back home.
If you want more guidance, get my meditation guide with my favorite Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations HERE:
