what you resist persists

That thing called life

What you resist persists

Take a moment to take it in: what you resist persists. 

To some extent, that little line feels like the story of my life.

Because in the end, we easily get stuck in the things we really don’t want.

My mom often reminds me of the fact that the universe (or God/anything/anyone you believe in) doesn’t understand ‘no‘ or ‘I don’t’.

So every time I silently tell myself that I don’t want itchy skin, I’m only manifesting, yes you guessed it,  more itchy skin. And I’m eternally stuck in my own vicious circle.

The trick is to phrase everything in a positive, simple way.

I want – or rather – I have beautiful, soft skin.

I devour long nights of deep sleep.

I wake up relaxed and at peace.

Brownie points if you can FEEL what that’s like or even visualise it. I find it difficult to do that when things are really rough, but I do my best to practice it when I’m more balanced and have time to kill (on the vespa, in the bus, in the shower).

WHAT you resist persistS…until you lean in

Another technique I find useful is leaning in and surrendering to whatever it is that you’re going through and NOT expecting it to go away any time soon.

Because that creates pressure to ‘fix it’ and to ‘be better’, which in my experience only leads to destructive behaviour.

What if this was reality for the next x weeks? How would you go about it? 

The reflex might be to run, to hide, to drink, to eat, to scratch yourself. But what if you could change that into it being what’s so for now?

This quote popped up three days ago after my morning meditation and it brought me to tears. The timing could simply not have been better.


You see: it really, REALLY isn’t the suffering that is causing problems. It’s your aversion to it – that feeling of deep hatred, loathing and disgust that puts you in a difficult position. You’re basically telling yourself and your body that it’s all wrong and that you’re gross.

And what do we do when we’re told that?

We panic. We engage in destructive habits. We want to run. We try to hide. We get sad. We freeze.


Yup. That’s it. That’s the cure.

Approach yourself and your challenge with love and see if something shifts. In my case I often just feel like I need a big hug, a warming bath or something that represent love in some little way.

Much love from me to you!

Stephanie is the founder of Helpings and the creator of all content on the platform. Watch her TEDx talk, 'Holy Shit', about digestion on YouTube, organized at King's Collage London in 2016. Stephanie is currently building her second business, a chocolate brand called kAAKAO, and she shares her experience by means of inspiring other entrepreneurs to excel in business and in life.

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