New year, new you

That thing called life

New year, new you?

There seems to be a clear trend this year: zero New Year’s resolutions. A new year, a new you – but in a less demanding way. And I think this development is one of the healthiest ones so far.

Don’t you dare call it a fad.

I recently wrote a review of 2018 on LinkedIn, read it HERE.

And it got me thinking about how I want to spend this year, what my priorities are and what brings me joy. What I’ve realised in the last 24 months is that I’d rather look forward than back into the past. Actually, I try not looking in any of those directions, because being in the present is key.

And the question remains, what to focus on right now. Let’s break it down:

Do more of:

  • Read books. Right now my favourite moment during the day is making a bowl (I don’t do small cups) of Earl Grey with almond milk and sipping it in bed while reading a book.
  • Be silly. I feel this urge to be really childish and goofy. Whether that means dancing like a fool in front of the mirror or making faces (easier to do together with a kid..) or rolling down a grassy hill like I used to do when I was 6.
  • Paint. My mother helped me create and paint my wall (see below) in November, and ever since then I’ve been changing the colours and finding incredible satisfaction in mindless, creative endeavours.
New year, new you
HOORAY to life, inspired by my favourite street artist Ben Eine


  • Pamper. It doesn’t mean I get expensive massages in five star hotels (though, they are quite nice too!). It means putting on a face mask, taking a long bath, doing nothing, getting my hair blowdried. Basically prioritising all the things that easily get neglected when life gets busy.
  • Write. Another strong urge. I actually composed the summary for my next book one sleepless night in my iPhone notes. One day I’ll actually write it. And until then I want to blog daily. And use a real pen for notes in beautiful notebooks. Maybe write a thank you card every once in a while, one of those win-win situations!
  • Breathe. It’s chocking how often we hold our breath, we forget to take deep breaths and we disregard the incredible power our breath has.
  • Let go. I’m letting go of the need to be right. Letting go any grudges that I’ve held. Letting go the pursuit of perfection. Letting go of sadness. Letting go of blame. Letting go of stuff I don’t need anymore.
  • Sleep. The more and the deeper, the better.

New year, new you

Do less of:

  • Screen time. Any screen. I haven’t owned a TV for the last 6 years, but my computer, Netflix and my iPhone have become a bad escape. I’m actually starting to enjoy my thoughts and often don’t feel like I want to listen to anything when walking outside.
  • Re-play (un)real, negative scenarios in my head. Useless. Energy consuming. Bad energy. OUT!
  • Scratch my skin. I’m in the process of recovering from a bad habit. You could also call it addiction. The remedy is self-love and a calm mind.
  • Use the words “should” and “I need to”. Re-phrase to: “I want to”. “I ought to.” And “I love/enjoy…”.  It feels better.
  • Travel. Might seem crazy, but I’ve travelled about twice a month during the last few years and I just want to stay put for a while. A two day trip to a German trade fair in 20 days seems like a stretch right now..
  • Throw out food. I’m being super careful with what I buy to make sure it doesn’t rot before I get around to eating it.
  • Reading the weekend papers. I’ve had The Times’ weekend subscription for the last six years, which I just cancelled as I noticed that it was stressing me out. No point it buying something unless I intend to read it (which equated to about 1-2 hours each morning). And it’s entirely possible to buy a paper when I feel like it – NEWSFLASH!

What are you wanting more/less of?


Stephanie is the founder of Helpings and the creator of all content on the platform. Watch her TEDx talk, 'Holy Shit', about digestion on YouTube, organized at King's Collage London in 2016. Stephanie is currently building her second business, a chocolate brand called kAAKAO, and she shares her experience by means of inspiring other entrepreneurs to excel in business and in life.

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